Dr Judith Guedalia

1. Setting Sail on the Sea of Life
(Matching tags: Jewish Press,Chaim K.,Torah)

Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K.© 2009   Chaim K. rolls into the office with a very focused look this week.  After close to three and a half years of almost weekly sessions we "read" each other quite ...

2. When Pigs Fly - Something Out of the Ordinary: Chaim K.'s Perspective on Days of Awe and the Swine Flu
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By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K.            The Days of Awe are upon us, a time of introspection and renewal. Time reviewed and time projected. When Chaim K. came into my office during the month of ...

3. The Higher The Expectation The Bigger The Fall
(Matching tags: Jewish Press,Spinal Cord Injured,SCI,Expectations,Chaim K.,Disappointment)

Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. Chaim K. comes into the office and immediately begins to speak, as if our last meeting had never ended. "Eight years ago, at age 14, I was hit by a car and left a quadriplegic ...

4. A Visit To "Angels On The Moon"
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By: Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K "Do you dream, that the world will know your name So tell me your name Do you care, about all the little things or anything at all? I wanna feel, all ...

5. Erev Taanit Esther 2009 - The Eighth 'Yahrzeit': Don't Judge Anyone
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By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. © 2009 Chaim comes rolling into the office, and no sooner has he parked his motorized wheelchair he says: "Hevei Dan Et Kol Adam LeKaf Zechut - in the vernacular, 'give ...

6. Pyramid Of Needs And Then Some...
(Matching tags: Change,Jewish Press,Hierarchy Of Needs,Chaim K.)

By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. © 2008 We have many needs.  Sitting with Chaim K. as an annoying fly buzzes around, a need that is not on Maslow's iconic pyramid comes to mind.  The specific need ...

7. On Siblings, Jealousy And The Normal One
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By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. "When I was healthy and my brothers were young and bothered me," said an exasperated and frustrated Chaim K., as we began another session, "I'd shout at them or even ...

8. Is It Better To Have Loved And Lost Than To Never Have Loved At All?
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By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. I hold it true, whate'er befall; I feel it,          when I sorrow most; Tis better to have loved and lost, Than never to have loved, at all.   From Alfred Lord ...

9. 'High Man' On The Totem Pole
(Matching tags: Jewish Press,Chaim K.,The Totem-Pole Effect,Mass Casualty Events,MCEs)

Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K.* The meanings of the designs on totem poles are as varied as the cultures that produce them. Totem poles may recount familiar legends, clan lineages or ...

10. Giving A 'Loan' From The Bank Hanafshi (Emotional Bank)
(Matching tags: Giving,Chaim K.,Jewish Press)

By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K.          When he was wheeled into my office for our weekly appointment, I noticed a change. He seemed to be bursting with something that I couldn't place. No sooner ...

11. Seeing Life as It Can Be - Not Accepting Life As It Is!
(Matching tags: Chaim K.,Neuroplasticity,Jewish Press)

By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K.            "When I first came to Dr. Guedalia, about a year ago, I believed/thought that my life was over, because I am paralyzed; because I can't do anything; because ...

12. 'Two' Is Better Than 'One', And The Cord Of Three Strands...
(Matching tags: Chaim K.,Group Therapy,Jewish Press,Mimi N.,Jenny S.)

By Dr. Judith Guedalia, Chaim K., Jenny S. and Mimi N. © 2007 I was nervous. This was going to be my first "group" in a very long time. How would I segue to a foursome from a "sicha b'arba eynaim" ...

13. 'Capped And Then Handi-capped'
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Co-written by Chaim K. and Dr. Judith Guedalia © 2007 (Written last Purim)         Kail Maleh Rachamim, He Who lives in the uppermost levels of the heavens          So begins the prayer for those ...

14. Jealousy, Cupidity/Desire And Honor/Dignity Put A Man Out Of The World (Pirkei Avot/Sayings Of The Fathers': 4:21)
(Matching tags: Positive Envy,Chaim K.,Jealousy,Jewish Press)

By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. © 2007         "Last night I went to a good friend's wedding, yet again; my friends seem to be dropping-out of bachelorhood like flies," smiles Chaim K. aged 20, through ...

15. Counting-Up Our Days And Hopes For The Future
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By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Mr. Chaim K.          One of the hardest things to do is the "count-up." Start at a point of extreme, almost ineffable sadness and pain, and start counting the seconds, minutes ...

16. Living And Learning From The Sayings Of Our Fathers
(Matching tags: Counter-Transference,Jewish Press,Chaim K.,Transference)

By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. © 2007          Hillel says: "Do not separate from the community. And do not trust yourself until the day of your death. And don't judge your friend until you are in ...

17. A Purim L'Chaim, BS"D With G-d's Intervention
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By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. © 2008 (This column was written several weeks before Purim.)   "When a person wakes up in the morning, opens his eyes and he's alive, he might think that this is ...

18. Sounds Of Silence: Chaim K. And His Old Friend Darkness
(Matching tags: Chaim K.,Fast of Silence,Sounds of Silence,Jewish Press)

Dr. Judith Guedalia © 2008 and Chaim K. Hello darkness, my old friend; I've come to talk with you again Because a vision softly creeping, left its seeds while I was sleeping And the vision that was planted ...

19. Anger vs. Midot: States And Traits From Chaim K.'s Perspective
(Matching tags: CSI,Firgun,Jewish Press,Anger,Regression,Cervical Spine Injured,Quadriplegic,Chaim K.)

By Dr. Judith Guedalia and Chaim K. © 2008 Over the Hagim I met many Americans who − once introduced to me − said something like the following:   How is Chaim K.?    ...

20. 'Off-The-Derech' From Off-To-The-Side: A Different Perspective
(Matching tags: Chaim K.,Jewish Press,Off The Derech)

Dr. Judith Guedalia © 2008 and Mr. Chaim K. "Don't make me into some kind of "Hacham b'Leila." Literally this means a wise-man-of-the-night, figuratively, advice by happenstance, or someone whose input ...